As this past year comes to a close and the new one has arrived, I challenge you to consider these resolutions. But before you do, take some time to reflect on this past year:
What were your biggest challenges, hardships or “losses,” and what values, lessons and wisdom did you gain from it? What are you not happy about and what are you going to do to make it better or right? What are your short-term and long-term goals and does the timeline/deadline of these need to be adjusted?
As you reflect, be sure to give yourself credit as well! What went well? What are you grateful for? What have you accomplished this year? What are you doing right, what feels good for you? What’s working for you that you’d like to continue into the New Year?What could you do better?
After you’ve taken some time to think about that, consider adding these resolutions to yours to help make this year even better than the last and the best one yet! 🙂
1- DECLUTTER & get rid of invaluable stuff:
This should be one of the first things you do to have a clearer mind undistracted from the clutter and old things that no longer serve you in your life-clean out your space! This includes your:
Physical space: bedroom, house, apartment, living room, kitchen, office space, car, etc., forget spring cleaning, it’s the new year! Look at all of your spaces and see how you feel when you enter the space. Do you feel relaxed, calm and safe when you step into your bedroom? Think about what you want each space to do for you and tune into whether or not it does that for you. Consider minimalism.
Excess stuff, hoarding and clutter can be overwhelming, distracting and create subconscious stress or unease.
(get rid of old junk you no longer use or that no longer serves you or adds value to your life)
Social space: consider the social media you’re on and your usage of it. does it feel good to you? does it add value to your life. tune into how it makes you feel after you’re on it, whether it’s Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat. If it doesn’t add positivity to your life, delete it and instead use your spare time to do something you truly enjoy. if you’re not sure if it adds or takes away from your happiness try giving yourself a social media holiday and stay off of it or deactivate your account for 1 week or a 1 month to see how it feels. Clean and organize your phone apps into folders. Delete apps you no longer use.
Emotional space: meditate daily to declutter and quiet your mind, journal to brain dump your mind chatter and thoughts and also to gain clarity, problem solve and to reflect on daily happenings/thoughts. Get rid of emotional baggage: exes, “toxic” people in your life, negative mind talk & self-limiting thoughts.
Your mind adopts the thoughts of which you feed it: give it positivity, love and joy and soon that will become your automatic thinking.
2- BE A BETTER YOU: be kinder to others and pay a good gesture forward.
This step starts with loving, accepting, approving and being kind to yourself. It also includes being happy and content with yourself, your life situation and the world around you. If you are truly unhappy about your life situation, be proactive and do something about it! The NEW YEAR is a great time to reevaluate your life and change things accordingly. If right now you truly can’t change a part of your life situation for one reason or another, focus on the things that you can change.
Ultimately, we all want the same things: to love and to be loved; to feel a sense of belonging and to be happy. The love and kindness you give to others comes back to yourself as well. Volunteer, open the door for someone, smile at a stranger, mentor someone or give up your seat on the train for an elderly or disabled.
3- RECONSIDER YOUR TIME ON SOCIAL MEDIA:
As fun and addicting as it can be sometimes, there’s usually more cons than pros for social media usage. For many, social media has become an instinctual habit that we go to in our spare time: when we’re walking somewhere, waiting somewhere, on the subway, train, plane, airport, social gatherings.
It’s like a zombie apocalypse-we all are glued to our phone as if we’re living in a virtual world. It sometimes can be your security blanket when you’re alone or in an awkward social situation your phone is there to pass the time and save you. Ultimately, social media and your phone takes time away from you.
Instead of grabbing your phone to pass the time or to browse the latest posts, grab a book, hit the gym, go outside, call a friend, go to the park, have a bubble bath, play with your pet, pick up a hobby, play an instrument, journal, meditate, plan your week, plan your goals, paint, go to a museum, check out that restaurant or bar you’ve been wanting to go to. Real, non-virtual interactions are more fulfilling and enjoyable, put the phone down and limit your time on social media you just might like it 😉
4- TRAVEL SOLO:
If this is something you’ve never done and always said you could never do-DO IT! It’s such a liberating feeling to explore new places alone. You may feel vulnerable, scared and uncertain at times-yes, but that also brings up feelings of courageousness and bravery. You feel accomplished, proud and so good about yourself by the end of the trip knowing that you did something enjoyable, unthinkable at one point in your life & very liberating. Not to mention you do learn a lot about yourself along the way, which is a pretty good tradeoff for some fun! 😉
My first solo trip was Costa Rica a few years ago-at the time it was one of the safest places for solo female travelers (and I think it still is-but do your research). There is also group trips that you can travel solo with other solo travelers and groups such as Contiki, Topdeck and Intrepid.
5-TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE NEW YEAR NOTION:
If there was ever a good time to change things up, take a chance and do something different the start of the New Year is the BEST time to do it! Cut your hair super short, dye your hair a crazy color, change your image, change your reputation, your social expectations, go against the grain and take a chance!
If you are known to be the negative Nancy, Debbie Downer take advantage of this New Year time & change it up, challenge that expectation & change that reputation and just smile even if you need to fake it till you make it! Just give it a try to be that better you, you always wanted to be. Seek professional help if you need more support. Journal, meditate & exercise to help reflect, explore and learn about yourself and improve your health and well-being. Lean into your social support: friends, family, loved ones to help support and achieve your goals! Be “weird”, quirky, authentic, be you!
Exercise more or if you haven’t already start exercising! Enlist a gym buddy to help support, motivate and hold each other accountable. Explore different exercise options: walk at the park, soul cycle, yoga, Zumba, volleyball league.
Eat cleaner: increase your fiber intake, eat more greens, keep your plate colorful with different colored vegetables, hydrate more, limit processed foods, fried foods, artificial sweeteners, added sugars and salts- your body will thank you!
Ultimately, no matter what diet you follow your best guide is to tune in and listen to your body, do you feel energized after the foods you eat, do you have a brain fog or indigestion and heartburn, are you bloated or do you feel tired like you want to take a nap afterwards?
Quit the bad habits: smoking, excess drinking, drugs, binge eating, binge TV watching, etc.
7-MAKE A PLAN AND STICK TO IT!:
Making smaller, achievable and realistic small to-do’s/tasks along the way, working towards that big goal will help make your goal not seem so overwhelming, out-of-reach or unrealistic.
Set deadlines for yourself. Use a planner to keep yourself organized. Create a vision board to visualize your New Year’s Resolutions and your goals, dreams and aspirations. Set intentions for the year, for the day, the week and each month to put it out there and verbalize to the universe what you want. Fake it till you make it: sometimes we need to take a leap of faith, take a risk and just tell ourselves to believe that we can even if there may be some underlying doubt or uncertainty. Let go of any doubts, fears and uncertainties that you may have and instead replace that same doubtful statement with a confident and certain one.
Happy New Year’s to you, let’s make this year a great one! 😀
(some inspirational quotes and videos for you below)